Thursday, 31 May 2012

How Not to introduce you gay lover to your parents…

Many say that a good, healthy relationship is one where you can be completely open with everyone, and one that you do not need to hide from people. Sure, you may get some kind of kick from hiding it, but for the most part, it will just end up tearing you up inside. You will end up having to hide your emotions around the house and will be unable to seek comfort when things go wrong. You will at some point have to lie to your beloved parents and you could lose their trust, if they ever find out about it all.

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But there are cases, when it is important that you do hide it, for example:
  • If you are not self-sufficient, and risk being kicked out
  • If being found out would put you in any sort of physical danger
  • If it could lead to loosing your job (illegal in the UK I think…)

Ways in which you could hide your relationship

  •  Lock your phone, password protect everything
  • Avoid doodling their name on everything
  • Swear that you two are just REALLY REALLLY good friends
  • Always deny
  • Don’t post about anything concerning your relationship on facebook, or any other social network site
  • Delete your internet history
  • Limit the amount of people that know. Only tell those you can trust to keep it a secret.
  • Don’t show PDA
  • Control when you are seen together in public
  • Don’t talk about her/him more than you would any other friend
  • Make sure your siblings don’t find out
  • Keep your sex toys in a locked box.. and the lube.

Useful websites:



Other websites: 


Video: how to introduce your (lesbian) girlfriend to your parents



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To me, it appears that if you are in a situation at home, where you would be kicked out and your safety and comfort could be compromised, it may be best not to be in a relationship. I know, you lurrrveee him. But hard as it is to accept, we have to remember that teenage relationships don’t last forever, and you can have all that messing around, when you leave home (perhaps when you go to university), when you can find your own lgbt circle to support you and be there for you, if your parents disown you. Right now it’s too much of a risk. Self-preservation in the short term is the most important. Be patient.
That being said, I haven’t been in that situation. I can’t really judge. So I hope that all the websites I’ve listed are helpful to anyone that really needs it. 


eli x


ps, I have guest-slave in mind that I will hopefully be able to blackmail into writing a post about her cousin's experience... so will try to get that posted in the near future

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